Tuesday, January 18, 2005
Am going canoeing..
woOohOoos..
been monthss!! sincee... nationals?
gonna be seeing ard 20 new faces for the orientation later.
hahs. unlike last year, our recruitment was so much better!
girls and guys all enthusiastically went forward to sign up for this trials.
gees.
wells.. guess da fate of the existing team is depending alot on these 20+ freshmen.
just finished my stack of event order..
weddings are rushing in before chinese new year to avoid the 'widow year'
last minute functions in every now and then.
>.< just one word to describe everything.. busy.
thank god dat im on 1/2 day leave.
lOls. gonna be knocking off in less than an hr's time. =)!
looking forward for this friday's ph!!
alright,
enough. =x
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Discover Your Talents
How do you figure out what you were meant to do? How do you know what
you're really good at?
Most of us don't know. People are quick to point out our weaknesses and
most of us in childhood and onwards were pushed toward shoring up our
weaknesses rather than identifying our strengths and working on them.
This neglect of our strengths makes us believe that they either aren't
there or are too mediocre to mention.
Do you do something well, but because it comes so easily to you, you
write it off as something everyone can do and no big deal? This happens
all too often with talents. Talents are innate, and just because it
comes naturally to you doesn't mean it does to everyone else.
Think about what you liked to do as a child. Reading? Writing? Teaching?
Acting? Helping others? These are clues. Ask your parents what drove
them nuts about you when you were little. What couldn't you help doing?
Taking things apart, maybe? Or banging on things? What about an
obsession with colouring things?
Think about what you like to do when you have a choice. What do you do
in your spare time? Do other people tend to remark that it's a worthless
hobby? Something that will not earn a decent living? Well, things of
ways to make it your living! There is no skill that can't be put to good
use.
What would you do even if you weren't paid to do it? You may already be
doing it for free. One way to try out a talent is to do volunteer work
where you get to use a new skill and see how it feels.
What activity do you 'get lost in'. You start doing it - like working on
your car, or talking with someone about a pet topic - and four hours
later when you come to, you realise you've missed your lunch and your 2
o'clock appointment. What absorbs you fully?
Take notice of what you learn quickly. You may be given an assignment at
work and almost instantly excel at it. That's a sign that it's pulling
on an innate talent.
Spending some time investigating your natural talents can pay off
handsomely in the long run.
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A Slice of Life - Produced and presented by Eugene Loh
Host of AM NewsTalk with Michelle Martin, weekdays 6am to 10am
on NewsRadio 93.8FM
11:15 AM
Saturday, January 15, 2005
Corrine..
I WANT YOUR HOUSE!
lols.
sucha nice place to slack..
shall drop by soon! =X
ur bed.. ur room.. shall be mine one day.
*grins*
wells.
was down for my buddy & sotong's band concert last night..
thou aint someone who appreciates music well..
but it was kinda entertaining anyways..
saw lotssa sec sch frens whom i've not seen for months..
most looked da same.. but some has changed so much!
all of us seems a lil'distant.
some settled in jc, some working and some idling..
we're all at the crossroad of our next phase of our lives.
we might not be sitting down to chat anymore,
or maybe.. we might not even see each other again..
i just want to wish all of you success and.. yah.. hope to cya ard =)
had a great feast with the girls again.
da same old sotongs again..
hahs.
yahs.. see you girls for a swim later? =>
back to work.
9:30 AM
Thursday, January 13, 2005
life is good.
its great to sit down & eat with you girls again.
shall meet out real soon.
before the bear flies back to her hometown again eh?
=)
anyways. thanks for da watch, top, chopsticks, cup & honey drink my darlings =x
*AHEM*
xinmei.. MAGGI MEE!
oOOps?
Resolving Relationship Conflicts
What blocks you from resolving conflicts with your partner?
A lasting and rewarding relationship has to be open and honest. And to
keep it that way, you have to be able to air grievances with your
partner. Burying issues, and avoiding conflict and disagreements, do not
have a place in a healthy relationship. You might as well accept the
fact that you WILL get on each other's nerves. You will disagree from
time to time. Learn how to argue in a constructive manner to resolve the
issue at hand and not tear each other apart personally.
Here are some recommended steps for resolving conflict.
First of all, agree to reach a solution. Many of us either choose to
attack our partner or run away from the argument, neither of which
helps. Always remember that you and your partner are in the same team -
both of you want what's best for the relationship. Sometimes, in the
heat of argument, we forget that.
Also, explore your feelings. Why are you so upset? Examine your reaction
to the event and see if you are responding to the present situation or
reliving a past hurtful event. See if this issue is really about you and
your partner or you and someone from your past.
Next, identify what you want. Speak up. See what you and your partner
can work out for a mutually satisfying resolution. Your partner cannot
give you want you want if you don't have the courage to ask for it.
Remember, you are in love with each other. You want to feel good, your
partner wants to feel good, and you both have the same wish for each
other. Keep that in mind as you express your desires.
And choose mutual action. A relationship is a partnership, a joint
effort. If one person ends up being responsible for making the union
work on every level, resentment will build up. Work out fair
resolutions.
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A Slice of Life - Produced and presented by Eugene Loh
Host of AM NewsTalk with Michelle Martin, weekdays 6am to 10am
on NewsRadio 93.8FM
10:02 AM
Wednesday, January 12, 2005
Building Self Esteem and Confidence
Building self esteem and confidence is a process that involves making
changes. And making changes requires time and energy. So the first step
towards a healthier sense of self-worth is to improve your energy level.
To do this, make sure that you have a nourishing diet, sleep well,
exercise regularly, and make time to relax, enjoy yourself and be with
the people you love. Develop a kind of structure or schedule so that
these things are built into your daily life. No matter how busy you are,
make time for them.
Building self esteem and confidence hinges on breaking old habits and
developing new, productive ones. A key habit that needs to be shattered
is persistent negative thinking. For some of us, these thoughts are so
interwoven into the fabric of our minds that we assume that they are
normal - but they are not! Learn how to acknowledge and deal with your
inner critic.
Also, stop playing The Blame Game. Stop judging yourself and other
people in your life for what has happened to you in the past. Blame
serves no purpose other than to breed bitterness and resentment. This
wastes a lot of time and energy that you could use in more productive
ways. Besides, people do what they think is best at the time, the same
way you do. And we all make mistakes. So learn to forgive yourself and
others for past mistakes.
Learn how to reconcile, resolve and accept what has happened in the past
and know that it has made you a stronger person. Acknowledge your fears
and find out what's really behind them. Many of your fears are likely to
be groundless; it is the thinking, attitudes and beliefs that cause much
of the unnecessary fear. Fear is often a disguise for your lack of
belief in yourself and your judgements.
Once you've started making these changes to build your self-esteem,
commit to them! Even if you manage to use just one of the examples I've
suggested, it will begin to make a difference to your level of self
esteem. Know that you have value, regardless of what has happened
before.
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A Slice of Life - Produced and presented by Eugene Loh
Host of AM NewsTalk with Michelle Martin, weekdays 6am to 10am
on NewsRadio 93.8FM
11:19 AM
Monday, January 10, 2005
Free Your Mind
Many years ago there was a young man living in Korea, who felt that his life was quite empty. So he shaved his head and went up into the mountains to live the life of a monk. He studied diligently for a number of years, but still felt that he did not really understand how to be free.
The young man had heard of certain Zen masters living in China so he gathered his meager belongings and started a long and arduous journey across arid plains.
Every day he would walk for many hours, and would stop only after finding a patch of land that had a source of water. Finding water was not a simple task in such dry lands. There were many times he had to walk until late in the evening before finding a suitable location in which to rest and be refreshed.
One day was particularly hot, and the monk walked on endlessly, unable to find an oasis. When he did finally find a shaded area he collapsed onthe ground and slept for several hours. He woke up some time after midnight and he was tremendously thirsty. He crawled around on his hands and knees in the darkness, and ran across a roughly made cup that musthave been left by a previous traveler. The custom of leaving a cup with some water in it, for the next traveler to drink from was quite common. He drank the meager amount of water in the cup and he felt very blessed and very at peace with the world. He lay down again and slept quite comfortably.
The next day, upon waking up, he saw what the night before, he had taken to be the roughly made cup. It was the shattered skull of a baby wolf. The skull was caked with dried blood, and numerous insects were floating on the surface of the small quantity of filthy rain water still left at the bottom.
The monk saw all of this and immediately started to vomit. He had a great wave of nausea, and as the fluid poured forth from his mouth, it was as if his mind was being cleansed. He immediately felt a deep sense of understanding. Last night, since he couldn't see he assumed that he had found a cup which had been left by a fellow traveler. The water tasted delicious. This morning, upon seeing the skull, the thought ofwhat he had done the night before made him sick to his stomach. He understood that it was his thinking, and not the water, that made him feel ill. It was his thinking that created good and bad, right and wrong, delicious and foul tasting. With no thinking there was no suffering.
How about you? Is there some situation in your life where it's your thinking that makes for the suffering and not the actual circumstances you are embroiled in? If this is so, it's a great opportunity for you to cleanse your mind and be free.
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A Slice of Life - Produced and presented by Eugene Loh
Host of AM NewsTalk with Michelle Martin,
weekdays 6am to 10amon NewsRadio 93.8FM
6:16 PM
Saturday, January 08, 2005
WELCOME BACK MY FELLOW GIRLFRIENDS!!!
where's my pressies?
my box of maggi mee (thanks xm =x)?
chillz!
meet out soon... =)
11:52 PM
Friday, January 07, 2005
been pretty long since i last updated my blog.
wells.
life has been good.
and i meant...REAL good.
lols.
im happy at work.
im attached to my work.
im attached to my "neat&tidy" desk.
im attached to my fellow colleagues n bosses.
im attached to everything here.
no longer dragging myself to work..
n i seems to see a beam of light shinning in the dark room of my heart, my life.
i do misses those days back in school.
but there's really nothing i can do about.
im motivated.
i wanna be one of those undergrads who carry heavy books, write long thesis and enjoy their campus life with stress all around.
i know i aint gonna do well for my o's.
err. there's still nothing i can do either. =x
i will eventually climb up there.
i dream.
i fulfil.
1:15 PM
Thursday, January 06, 2005
Making Major Decisions
We make many decisions daily. The majority of those decisions we makewith very little effort or time. You could call them instinctive choices. Most of them are about minor things - like what to have for lunch, what tie to wear, or how to respond to a colleague's remark.
It's the major decisions that usually give us stress - like whether to accept a promotion and work in another country, whether to marry someone, or whether to have another child. These decisions are life-changing. And most of us struggle with them, fearing that a wrong choice may lead to much regret.
So how do we minimise the odds of making a so-called "wrong" choice?
Have faith in your abilities. The choices we make are to a great extentdependent on how much we believe we can achieve. If you have a limited vision of your success, your mind can only access options that correspond with that narrow view. So always believe that you can do better.
Be sure that you are making the decision for You, in accordance with your own desires, values, and beliefs. Don't make choices based on what you think other people want. Trying to reach someone else's goal or measure yourself against someone else's yardstick will only lead to frustration. This is unless of course when it concerns someone you love deeply? then, the decision might have to be based on what's best for that person.
Much distress comes from believing that your present condition is adirect result of a folly in the past and that your situation will never improve. But life is like an adventure race - until you reach the end,you can never be sure where your next decision will lead you. And you can never be sure how things will turn out. Life reveals itself step-by-step. The book doesn't end here.
And have the courage to implement your decision. Very often, the choices we make don't lead to the desired outcomes because we lacked the gumption to run with them wholeheartedly. For example, we could've married someone only to give up on the relationship at the first hint of trouble. Not understanding, of course, that the marriage could have worked out very well, if only we had the determination to refine and develop it. So have faith in your choices and live without regret.
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A Slice of Life - Produced and presented by Eugene Loh
Host of AM NewsTalk with Michelle Martin, weekdays 6am to 10am
on NewsRadio 93.8FM
7:33 PM
Tuesday, January 04, 2005
Been catching up with this programme lately in office
and found it rather interesting.
Everyday's topic embarking on various parts & parcels of life..
An article worth reading. =)
A SLICE OF LIFE
Weekdays at 7:55 am, 12:55 pm, 2:55 pm, 6:55 pm
Sundays at 6:05 am, 7:05 am, 8:05 am, 9:05 am, 1:05 pm
NewsRadio 93.8FM, a station of MediaCorp Radio
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Enhancing Interpersonal Relationships
Today, an effective and surprisingly simple way to improve your
relationships with people, especially colleagues and casual
acquaintances - people who don't seem important to you now, but whose
help could really come in handy one day.
Before I tell you, ask yourself this - Has anyone ever remembered
something about you that entirely caught you off guard? Perhaps it was
your birthday, or a little-known personal fact like your favourite dish?
But, not only did they remember, but they conveyed their interest in you
by asking you about it! Some might even go further, actually getting you
a birthday present, or buying that dish for you. Didn't that make you
feel special?
It's a common experience, and often times an overlooked way to build
rapport and we all know how important rapport is when persuading your
people. All it takes is a little bit of effort and smart listening.
Did they mention their favorite football team? Their siblings? Their
children? If so, remember the context, date and place, then write the
information down before you forget. This information might come handy
some day!
You might begin by asking someone a general question, like "What are you
doing this weekend?" Remember the answer. Remember the details and
follow-up with them. If they tell you a specific date, time, or event,
remember it, then ask later! Whether it be a birthday, meeting, sporting
event, or any other personal event. Think of it like a personal event
list. It'll keep you on top of things.
One day, when you need their help with accomplishing your goals, they'll
be much more likely to help since you've already built a great
foundation. The next time you call a friend, business contact, or
acquaintance, pull out your notes beforehand and refresh your memory.
They'll be glowing if you say happy birthday or inquire about their
child's graduation. You'll be surprised at all the positive remarks that
will be flowing out of their mouths!
Each day, find out a little more about your people, your family, and
your friends. One day they might indirectly mention how much they love a
certain chocolate bar, or a favorite dish. They don't usually expect you
to remember, but strive to remember. Writing them down is especially
helpful. Then, some time later, buy them their favourite chocolate bar
or their favourite dish and they'll be so delighted you remembered. All
of a sudden you've built a strong connection and have yet another person
who'll be willing to help you on your road to success.
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A Slice of Life - Produced and presented by Eugene Loh
Host of AM NewsTalk with Michelle Martin, weekdays 6am to 10am
on NewsRadio 93.8FM
11:26 AM
