Thursday, January 13, 2005
life is good.
its great to sit down & eat with you girls again.
shall meet out real soon.
before the bear flies back to her hometown again eh?
=)
anyways. thanks for da watch, top, chopsticks, cup & honey drink my darlings =x
*AHEM*
xinmei.. MAGGI MEE!
oOOps?
Resolving Relationship Conflicts
What blocks you from resolving conflicts with your partner?
A lasting and rewarding relationship has to be open and honest. And to
keep it that way, you have to be able to air grievances with your
partner. Burying issues, and avoiding conflict and disagreements, do not
have a place in a healthy relationship. You might as well accept the
fact that you WILL get on each other's nerves. You will disagree from
time to time. Learn how to argue in a constructive manner to resolve the
issue at hand and not tear each other apart personally.
Here are some recommended steps for resolving conflict.
First of all, agree to reach a solution. Many of us either choose to
attack our partner or run away from the argument, neither of which
helps. Always remember that you and your partner are in the same team -
both of you want what's best for the relationship. Sometimes, in the
heat of argument, we forget that.
Also, explore your feelings. Why are you so upset? Examine your reaction
to the event and see if you are responding to the present situation or
reliving a past hurtful event. See if this issue is really about you and
your partner or you and someone from your past.
Next, identify what you want. Speak up. See what you and your partner
can work out for a mutually satisfying resolution. Your partner cannot
give you want you want if you don't have the courage to ask for it.
Remember, you are in love with each other. You want to feel good, your
partner wants to feel good, and you both have the same wish for each
other. Keep that in mind as you express your desires.
And choose mutual action. A relationship is a partnership, a joint
effort. If one person ends up being responsible for making the union
work on every level, resentment will build up. Work out fair
resolutions.
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